Updated: Apr 18
I am not writing about the new year's resolutions. There already are way too many articles on the topic. However, I do know - for having tried myself - that resolutions do not work if you have no sustained willingness to implement them. Deciding to change is easy, all it takes is a snap of fingers: "I've had enough, tomorrow will be the 1st day of the new me." Real change is not achieved overnight though, and it requires one key skill: discipline.
Given a choice, human beings often choose the easiest option. We tend to go for the instant reward or gratification instead of taking a more difficult long-term road. If you are a master procrastinator, I recommend to watch this TED talk by Tim Urban. It makes sense: why would we take a more complex direction, especially if we are going to experience discomfort along the way? Why would we want to suffer? "Be the change you want to see in the world" said Gandhi. The truth is profound change will be mentally or physically painful. So instead of resisting it, embrace the pain: it is a sign that you are actually moving into the right direction. Discipline, day-by-day, month-by-month, one small step after the other, is the tool that will get you through the change process. Do not listen to the voice in your head that says you can't do this: it is lying. Here are 3 steps you can take to be more disciplined:
Have a plan, full of actionable actions. Start with your objectives, turn them into actions, and divide those actions into steps. All it takes is to implement step 1, make it a routine, than move to step 2, etc.
Reward yourself. Treat each step you take as a victory for instance, and celebrate whenever you feel the time is right. Create a Hall of Fame wall somewhere very visible to you.
Hire a coach to help you design your plan of actions, and be your accountability partner. Coaches can show you the way towards success. if you want to know more about coaching, listen to my interview with Elite Game Developers.
The underlying purpose of coaching is to build confidence and show you that your goals can be reached. You are ready to start a conversation? Then book a time with me, and we will discuss how success looks like for you.